Whew! Having finally seen Brave I can reply - as far as feminism goes, this movie is brilliant. The "fighting for my own hand" is very much an acknowledged fuck-up on Merida's part and that she is better at archery than the suitors is a result of her specifically choosing archery as the thing she is good at, while they are (as per tradition) extremely competent brawlers. They also barely show up again, so it's never a case of Merida proving herself against them, and while the men brawl all the time, they are nonetheless presented as brave and capable. I thought the gender roles were handled very well - I personally find the trope of singular maiden warrior annoying and sexist, so it was great to see Elinor rocking traditional femininity and being strong because of it, while Merida is the oddball. I won't spoil you, but I thought that this movie is feminist as very few movies are: it's a casual "normal" feminism, the girls screw up and have to repair what they wrecked, etc.

Now, this is a weird movie, for its genre, and most people have a lukewarm reaction to it. I personally liked it very much (and god, is it visually beautiful), but I need to see it again without dubbing to see if I really liked it as much as I thought (other than, y'know, the feminism).